Dealing with a Stalker!

Stalking is a punishable offense here in Pennsylvania as it is in many other states within the United States. Yet, some people feel as if they are above the law when it comes to them. This is a first person experience of dealing with a stalker. 

Because this is now an active case with my local police department I cannot disclose the exact details. A stalker returned to my house after I told him a month earlier that I did not want anything to do with him. When he first knocked on my window, I sure as heck felt in danger until I knew he had left my neighborhood. I should have immediately called the police when he returned at quarter of one on November 15, but I did not. 

Instead I waited until the afternoon to talk with the local police. I was apprehensive in talking to them as he did not harm to me or my property I filed a report and I was told they would go talk with him. They also told me if he comes back to call them and they will be right here. I feel confident they will be here quickly as I live within a few blocks of their station. 

I know realize that I should have called the cops while he was here but I just wanted him off my property. I was so worried about my blood pressure soaring, as a heart patient I know to keep my blood pressure down. I felt I did the right thing, however I know now I did the wrong thing by not filing the report sooner. 

If a stalker comes to your home call the cops immediately do not hesitate at all there. If he or she seems harmless they could be simply buying their time trying to catch you off guard. 

Do not open the door at all if there is a stalker or other unknown person on the other side. Look out the window or simply talk to the person with the door closed. Do not open the door to get a better view! 

I do not think my stalker is a serial killer but serial killers can act sweetly as they lure you into their car or out of your home. Be a responsible person when you have an unwanted person hanging around, do not become a victim.

Identity Theft

Recently I dealt with some creep who stole my money online when he used my credit card to make random purchases. Perhaps he is not a creep in real life but identity theft is theft and that makes you a creep.

Anyways back to the story…

I could have simply reported it to the police as was my first thought. However, I did not like the officer who was on duty that night.  Some online friends told me I should become my own detective and track down the thief and I began my search.

Solution:

Cancel the card. Go to the transactions area of your online account

Contact each business where the cash was used. Tell them your story.

Here is a link to an article I wrote with more detailed version of the identity theft problem, and steps to the recovery of the money. 

Asking for help

Sometimes when life sends an avalanche of bad luck, we feel overwhelmed and are not sure where to turn for help. I am weathering such an avalanche at this time. I believe that no man or woman is an island, and we all need help but sometimes I forget this. I have been self reliant for so long that I just focused on working hard.

Sometimes when we are experiencing these bad times we forget that we need the help. We just toss up the walls and try to fix things on our own. When the odds are stacked against us though, it is hard to do it yourself. We all need to ask other people for a hand, as we help ourselves.

When you are living on the edge and one late payment begets you shut off notices well it is overwhelming. After making two house payments and paying a rather large bill in one month, I found myself in that position recently. I tried to work hard by writing more. I ended up turning in shoddy work, which got me suspended for a week and a half on one website I write for. That means I could not write for that site for that period. Being suspended simply added to my problems and made the situation at home worse.

Do not be a person who shuts off everyone during your time of need. Ask for the help you need, but try your best to help yourself as well. Work hard to get some income at home by doing odd jobs for neighbors, babysit children, or deliver newspapers. If you have to sell that set of antique dishes on eBay, do it. If people see you trying to help yourself they are more likely to help you with the other things you need.

In every community, a group is set up to help those people who occasionally go through rough patches. These places can help with money for bills, like your heating bill, or electric bill. There is always a food pantry to help you with food. Call your local Salvation Army and they will help you with food. No one should ever go without eating.